![]() So what is that fourth choice? This is something simple to keep in mind so we can actively work on building our kids up. These three options are of course, the ones we want to be careful not to use when interacting with our kids. In the third kind of response, active destructive, in this response we lessen or take away from the good news or accomplishments that our kids want to tell us about: You made the team, well that is going to be really expensive?” or “If only you could put as much effort into your school work as you do your sports. A typical passive constructive response is saying Good Job, kiddo as I am reaching another level on Candy Crush (we’ve all been there)! Or, I could respond in a passive constructive way, recognizing their good news, but in a half-hearted, not fully engaged way. I can respond in a passive destructive manner by ignoring or disregard the kids… When my kids come to me to show me a new “trick” they learned, “Mom, watch this”. The same is true for our kids.Īccording to Emily, there are four different ways that people respond to questions, I’m loosely paraphrasing from her here, to make it more directly applicable to moms with kids. In it she explained how we respond to the questions our spouse makes and how those responses shape our spouses attitudes and feelings. ![]() I once read an article that Emily Esfahni Smith wrote in The Atlantic about relationships, she called it, Masters of Love. If you are like us you probably respond with a quick, “Honey, that looks nice.” Or “Good sweatheart, but did you clean up the toys I asked you to clean”? While it may feel positive and supportive from our end, what we’re really doing is pacifying the kids with a quick quip. ![]() What do you say when they ask you to watch them spin in circles again or revel in awe over yet another Lego creation. Have you ever thought about how you respond to your kids? How we hurt our kids with our words, without even intending to? 100s of Fun Science Activities for Kids.
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